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He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.Lao-Tzu This quote is attributed to the writings of Lao-Tzu. It hasn't been determined if this was an actual person or a body of philosophical writings that have been passed down through generations....

Listening to an audio book by Pema Chodron I heard her say "Suffering makes us softer". She noted that if we push away our suffering we don't get the benefit of letting it ripen, giving us the benefit of the lesson imbedded in the suffering. Our brains are hardwired...

Remember as a kid, in the good old days when you didn't have a calendar that must be obeyed? You might remember going someplace your parents decided the family needed to go. Might have been visiting Grandma or relatives or driving to the next town to go shopping. As a...

After writing yesterday's blog about intensity and isolation, I needed a break. I was worn out from working this new way, fatigued by online meetings. While I don't advocate my choice as the best strategy for relieving fatigue, I did go home and I watched a movie on...

There is a strange new combination of pressures that come with this disaster of the COVID19 pandemic. Are you feeling the intensity of every decision? No wonder we are exhausted! Just thinking through the plan for the day, the many choices and options that may involve...

I've just spent the last hour on the CDC website for updates on the pandemic. As a mental health provider, I need to be tuned in to the trends that are happening in harder hit parts of the country as our Midwest section has had more time to prepare for the virus...

In medieval times there was a practice to write the phrase "Here be Dragons" on the edge of a map. When cartographers were charting by star light in new waters, they didn't know what was "out there" so they would draw dragons and sea monsters onto the map. It would...

I remember as a kid being as excited about April 1st as I was about Christmas or my birthday. Something interesting was going to happen, unique to this day. There was anticipation to see what pranks or tricks would pop up during the day. Would someone bring a frog on...